Man Crisis

Posted by Matthew Snider with 22 Comments

Men in our churches, are they men? Do they lead? Do they hurt? Do they look at Pornography? Do they get divorced? Do they hold down a job for more than a year?

The answer to the majority of the questions above is yes.

How are middle aged men supposed to learn about values, how to fear God, how to run a household that suits the needs of their families? How are men supposed to value the time they have with their kids?

This is a broken society, one where men are supposed to bring up leaders in the younger generations. This does not happen! At least not enough… Where do the men in your Church hang their values? Are they on their sleeves ready to share, ready to teach, or are there locked away secrets that only can harm themselves and everyone around them?

Watch the video below and let me know what you think.

Do you think there is a “man crisis” in our society today? What about in our churches?

Our elders in our Church are too busy for us younger men, or it seems a select few are chosen as those to be mentored. Does this happen in your Church?

Men, you need to get your priorities set straight, put God first and Family second, if done out of order you affect much more than you know!

Keep moving, be in the motion of initiation. Lead the younger ones, pick out the older ones and most importantly love God and your family the best you can!

Matthew Snider

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22 responses to Man Crisis

  1. Love the video and could not agree more.

  2. I remember seeing that video a little while back and really enjoying it. I think the message is right now. Men need to step up.

  3. Powerful video. While I don’t necessarily agree with why that old church closed in 1957 (the guy merely guessed) I do know men need to rise to the occasion.

    I’m involved with men’s ministry at my church and I’m excited about the opportunity to inspire and equip men to lead their families courageously.

  4. So Snider, I guess the real question becomes – who is your man? Who are you discipling?

    • Fabulous question brother, I feel, which may be wrong to feel this way, but I need to be at a certain point with God to disciple another man in becoming a man.

      I have been in touch with my new next door neighbor who seems to be searching though for sure.

      Thanks man!

      • Matt, you should consider yourself discipling your daughters. I’m sure you are doing it already, but consider calling it discipling.

        I think a disciple is one who disciples. If you desire to be a disciple (imitating whoever is discipling you), then you should be doing what he is doing and disciple someone yourself – at the same time. Just a thought.

        • Thanks man, I really haven’t had time to sit down and search myself and God on these things, it’s more shooting from the hip at this point.

          • Ha! I’m shooting from the hip too! — and I’m greatly encouraged by what you’ve been writing and sharing. There’s definitely something stirring in you.

  5. Yeah thats a powerful video. Our pastor sent it to us awhile ago. Its really been challenging me in how I model mature, godly behavior to other men around me.

  6. I saw the video, read the book and I have a few issues with them both.

    First, he makes a lot of assumptions. I really think some Christians do a disservice to the gospel when we say that we lack “real” men in our churches. Not true. Are there irresponsible, unspiritual men? Yes, of course. But there are also plenty of men who work for God.

    There are real men leading our churches. Men who love God, their families, and persevere. But these folks don’t get the attention.

    I think it was C.S. Lewis who said, “this world doesn’t need more books, it needs better books”. That’s true today as it was back then.

    When I see that the #1 NYT bestseller is a book called, “HEAVEN IS FOR REAL”, by Todd Burpo which is a tale of a boy who died and “saw” heaven is a joke all in itself.

    • I think to key in on C.S. Lewis’ quote – the world doesn’t need more men, it needs better ones. I agree with an extent about the leading men, BUT if you were to do the numbers over the years, I think it’s a dwindling number. Men are not brought up to be men any longer.

      As for the bestseller, what is it that you are trying to say about it? Are you mad it’s on the bestseller list? I assume if you had issues with this one you had issues with The Shack?

      • Where is the evidence that men are not brought up to be men? A book that someone writes based on his convictions? The problem today and in every generation is sin. It’s so easy to observe from afar a few examples of poor manhood and throw everyone into the pool. We live in a big world, and I think there are great men out there. We have become the “news” of our generation. We only love the “bad” stories and make headlines out of them.

        Re: bestseller. Shack was fiction and I have no problem with that. This other book is supposed to be “real life”. Real nonsense if you read the Bible. As for being mad? Well, if God tells us that His word is the only inspired work we have, why are some Christians running to a book and shaking their heads in agreement as if that has more authority over the sacred scriptures? Maybe we should be mad. Maybe the questions isn’t if there is a lack of good men. Maybe the question is “why are we letting weak philosophies and fables slip through our hands and not do anything about it?”

  7. I’m going to push back on the excuse I think ALL of us have probably used/currently use: “I need to be better, more mature, at a certain level in order to disciple.” The push back has to do with our view of the gospel and discipleship – either you define them or God does. I’m concerned that I’ve tried to define them and the standards associated with them for too long. Maybe we all have. The gospel teaches us that we are infinitely different the moment after we have be re-born in Christ. Have we not fully matured – of course not. But are we one more day in further in our experience our of sin, our brokenness, the goodness of God, etc? We surely are. Think of all the things declared of us (not earned), but declared. You could spend 1 hour a week talking to another man about those things, how we neglect that declaration, and that we will pray and encourage one another to live in that truth. You just filled 3-4 months of time. Who’s with me?

    • I am 100% with you man! Seriously, I want to do that, I have an urge to do it. Now to make it a priority is all.

      When are we doing lunch, we need to reconnect man!

  8. I’m an elder in my church community, even though I just turned 30 years old. The issues in this video are something we’ve labored over with our men. And when I say “labor”, I mean blood, sweat, and tears.

    I feel we’ve started a movement among our men that has flowed from the humility and vulnerability of our pastor and leaders. It has spilled into faimilies and our Sunday morning worship times. It’s been amazing but there is a lot more work to be done, a lot.

    I sent this video to my pastor and the other elders. Thanks for sharing it Matthew!

  9. I recently went on a men’s retreat with our church and the focus was on the men stepping up and doing their part and using their gifts in the church. I think more men should, because if they don’t who is? Men are leaders and they should strive to lead.

    Thanks for sharing the video!

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  11. PHILIP MAURICE HAYES May 23, 2011 at 1:16 pm

    Good morning. I have just watched your video. I came to it after typing “men in crisis”, into my PC. I am nearly 47, have a beautiful wife and daughter in Los Angeles. Currently, I am on a spec trip to Vancouver, my home town, where I sometimes find work in the film and voice over industries. My wife and I are in the midst of a multi year finacial beat down. This is the result of, our overspending, poor planning, and at times, living beyond our means and income. It is our own undoing, and yet our situation comes with a massive question mark. In spite of things, we have left no stone un turned, in terms of attempting to resurrect ourselves. My wife has become a licensed Realtor, and I am attempting to do the same, while in a holding pattern, awaiting confirmation of some viable projects, and dealing with the cancellation of one very significant one. This I’ll call the game changer. In as much, we are engaged in the search for any odd or side jobs. I made the observatioin recently, that I had somehow begun to dig down, rather than climb out of my situation. This morning, I was reminded in my early morning wake up call to my wife, how dismal things have become. Sorry to get off topic, but as a Christian and believer, yours was the first viable site that I was somehow led to. Your presentation is ironically a beautifuly constructed piece of film with what could be construed as either a dismal or a hopeful message. The message by the way, is not lost on me, and I have often commented on the state of “manhood” these days. As a performer, I had a great run, and always additinally searched for work outside the relm of acting, especially when things got tough. It is only recently, say in the last few years, that men, especially those of my “vintage” have been marginalized in the workforce. In California for instance, it is miraculous to find a position in even a big box store, especially if one fails to complete the one hour on line survey/application to their satisfaction. Mentoring, whether faith based or not, may be lacking, as men such as me, are emasculated in so many areas, and are facing the prospects of un or under employment. For myself, I do not know where I fit in receiving this as a message. But as a member of a large L.A. based Catholic church, I see nothing whatsoever as an outreach, assist or triage for men of any age or situation. I am up for any discussion over this matter, I will add my prayers to your efforts, and I wish you well in your endeavors.

    Very Best, Philip Maurice Hayes, Los Angeles CA. 310 351 1502.

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